With all the wedding talk between the two of you and everyone else, let’s take a break this week and talk about other “stuff”. There comes a time when we need to pause and reconnect again. And not just now, during all the wedding prep work, but in the years to come too! So what can we talk about that hasn’t been talked about already? Here is just a small list of suggestions that the two of you could start with to keep the lines of communication open face to face (and not on FB or texting or on the phone!).
Worries: What’s been worrying you lately? Think about this topic as a conversation starter. Simple, but it lets your loved one knows you care.
Secrets: Secrets are always fun to talk about. You can talk about secrets as a game where each of you has to take turns to reveal one new secret. [Remember these are FUN secrets!]
TV Shows and Movies: This topic can be past or present. During the holiday season you can share and maybe even watch those favorites: Frosty the Snowman, Charlie Brown, Scrooge, etc. And there are always lots of holiday romance movies to watch together. Make some popcorn, hot chocolate or cookies and milk and enjoy an evening of time together.
Food and Restaurants: Not only can you talk about your “favs” or not so favorites, why not plan and prepare a meal together? Something over the top or something simple — what fun this night could be! Shopping separately for the ingredients and then putting them together would even add variety to the whole process. Pick a restaurant or ethnic food you haven’t tried yet and then go for it!
The Bucket List: This is this blogger’s favorite topic. Talk about your dreams with your love. Share things you’ve always wanted to do but didn’t want to do alone! It’ll make for great conversations, and help your love get to know your personal side better.
Plans for the weekend: Talk about your weekend plans together even if it’s still Monday evening. It’s exciting and fun, and it’ll give both of you something to look forward to after a long week of work.
Compliments: Talk about the things you like or admire in each other. Let them know just how much you appreciate them, be it about their personality or about something they have done or are planning to do. Let each other know you really care.
Proud moments: Ask each other about those moments in life when you have felt really proud of your achievements. Memorable moments and childhood memories always provide for hours of fun, hilarious and sometimes serious conversations.
The future: What do you want to do with your life? This topic can make for intellectual conversations that can help you get to know your love’s view about life and the pursuits that matter to them.
Preferences: Sometimes, it’s the little things that can give both of you hours of fun conversations. Talk about each other’s likes and dislikes. Preferences always change with time, and the more you know about your love’s present preference, the better you’ll know them.
Shared goals: Plan shared goals together. This is a limitless topic. It could be decorating, running a marathon, taking a trip. When you plan things or try something new together, it brings both of you closer.
Self improvement: When you talk about your own flaws and where you’d like to improve, it helps your loved one feel more relaxed and comfortable and hopefully they’ll breakdown their own high walls and talk about their vulnerabilities too.
Families: Talking about each other’s families gives hours of interesting details and gossip. And it also helps make first introductions and spending time with the family more fun.
No matter your topic, spending the time together, communicating, listening, and loving each other is priority. Wedding plans can be urgent and stressful but sitting together and just sharing that time will be priceless.
Joanne & Peggy